For new moms, adjusting to the new roll (aka motherhood) isn’t always easy. Sometimes it doesn’t happen innately. But it does happen in an instant, and your world changes forever. But women support women, and mamas support mamas. So we spoke with some moms who shared their best pieces of advice for new moms.
According to Amanda from Ohio whose little girl just turned 1, “One piece of advice I took and I am so glad I did was set boundaries before your baby is even born with people who usually do not respect boundaries or know how to help a new mom! Definitely helped with keeping those boundaries once my baby was born and not feeling guilty saying no!”
Deanna, from Utah, and also a relatively new mom herself, advised, “Remember that nobody (baby, mommy, daddy, tiny siblings, etc) is perfect so don’t be too hard on yourself. Also, don’t compare yourself to others: YOU are the best mom/dad for YOUR baby.”
Aubrey from Massachusetts, whose son recently turned 3, offered up this advice for new moms: "Find a new parents group. When my son was six-weeks old I started attending an in-person group for new moms and their babies. It was led by a perinatal mental health specialist and we could discuss, chat and propose questions about our babies and new mom life. All week I would look forward to that one hour where I could socialize with people going through the same struggles as me, share tips and things we had learned, and laugh about how little sleep we were getting. I made friendships that have continued well into our children's toddler years."
"All week I would look forward to that one hour where I could socialize with people going through the same struggles as me." - Aubrey
Aubrey also added, "Get outside. Whenever my baby was fussy or going through something, as long as we could get out and enjoy some fresh air, things seemed to turn around -- for my baby and for me. This can prove hard in certain climates, but once we had a semblance of a routine down, I always made it a priority to get outside. If I knew it was going to be a hot day, I tried to get out first thing in the morning. If we didn't know what the day would bring, I would have the stroller and baby carrier at the door, ready to go at a moment's notice."
According to Kaitlin, a mom of two ages 2 and 9, “Something I have learned in motherhood is to do what feels right for you & your baby/child. There is so much information out there coming from every angle. Motherhood is wonderful, but it can be so overwhelming. Endeavoring not to forget that we are the ones who know our families and babies best is very important.”
According to Sarah, who lives in Pennsylvania with her two daughters, “My piece of advice I'd give to a new mom would be to not feel like you have to do it all. It's okay if the laundry piles up, the dishes don't get cleaned right away, or it's been a while since you showered regularly. Being a new mom is exhausting and hard, and prioritizing yourself and your baby is the most important thing. Everything else will get done in its own time.”
Motherhood may not have a manual, but there is a community of moms willing to offer advice, support, and guidance along the way.
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